your child isn’t the patient: the role parents need to play when a teen or young adult is misusing drugs or alcohol, with Rebekah Tayebi
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Show Guest: Rebekah Tayebi, MS, ACSW, satyafamilycoaching.com, co-author of The Wanderlust Warrior
Show Notes:
SPEAKERS
Brenda Zane, Rebekah Tayebi
Episode topics: parenting, in-home therapy, children, family, therapist, love, ADHD, resilience, shame, blame, skills, mom
00:12 Introductions, background on Rebekah and what led her to working with families
05:30 Brenda’s struggle with being highly empathetic
07:35 Common reasons parents reach out to Rebekah for help, parenting leadership, disrespect from teens, dealing with substance use
10:53 COVID, isolation and mental health, how do you know when it’s mental health vs substance use or both, parental intuition
16:11 Triggers for parents, wanting to “fix” the child, tendencies to blame & dealing with shame as a parent, love as a skill
22:16 Building skills, overwhelm, isolation, reaching out for help, family of origin
25:21 What can parents do when their child is struggling but not in serious trouble or danger, a parent’s way of being, mindfulness
29:49 Unique ways of connecting when you feel disconnected, resilience in ourselves and our kids coming out of COVID
36:49 Brenda’s tangent on ADHD in our kids, honoring their experiences and way of being
43:09 Empathy, honesty, and neutrality in our thinking and language as ways to help our kids, role modeling positive behavior, recovery and the template we’re laying down for our kids
49:57 Rebekah’s book, work projects, and family therapy in the home
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